Sexuality

There is no foreplay -only play!
Ambitious title, we know. But we would like to draw your attention to the limitation that this word brings with it. So what do we mean, exactly, when we say there is no such thing as foreplay? How can it not be a thing?

During conversations with my clients as well as with friends the word sex is almost always used as a synonym for penetrative sex. Everything else is somehow not sex, or at least not the REAL thing. And woman to woman sex is then what? Thanks to Freud and his misogynist idea that only the vaginal orgasm is the mature one and the one worth thriving for has put a big burden on women over centuries. And, let us not forget it, also for some men. “Erectus ergo sum”. The male identity is based on...